Friday, 6 December 2013
Friday, 5 April 2013
There was a young girl in her early 20’s who was feeling very sad and dejected. She cries each day as she nursed her deep emotional hurts and pain. The pain of being rejected by her boyfriend. The pain of rejecting her own self. She wrestles with intense feelings of guilt and regrets. She was experiencing a breakup in her relationship. This is her second failed relationship. When she was young, she have always felt that she is the “black sheep” in her family.
Why are there so much rejection in this world? Human being are not products , goods or comodity. We may reject damaged goods, imperfect products or poor quality crops. But the way we treat human being should never be like the way we handle manufacturing items.
We need to learn to be more nurturing and accepting. We need to be less self-centered. There must be more understanding and sensitivity. As parents, loving our children is not enough. We need to love, accept and respect them unconditionally.
Many a times, as parents, we either consciously or unconsciously expressed conditional love and care to our children. It’s like “ if I do this to you, I expect this in return” or “ if you do not listen to me, then I don’t love you”.
Unconditional love is rare and endangered nowadays. To love unconditionally is to love without a personal agenda. It means the willingness and ability to extend ourselves to accept someone for who they are and not what they have done or not done. It is loving and accepting someone without expecting anything in return. It is respecting a person who is worthy in their own ways. It is accepting a person’s strengths and weaknesses. It is the only ingredient for a human being to grow and achieve their full potential.
But where can we find unconditional love?
The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.
Monday, 11 March 2013
Confidence is the key word for the market place. People often admire those who appear confident in speech or behaviour.
But where do confidence derived from ? What is the definition of confidence? What are the causes of lack of confidence?
Well, I am not going to dwell too much into the details and theory about confidence.
I believe that true confidence is derived from the knowledge of the Truth. Because True confidence is a solid anchor that stands firm although it may be occasionally swayed or shaken during times of trials. It is an unwavering belief about our own self-worth and accepting our ability/talents/gifts and limitations. It is experiencing total acceptance and unconditional love from our parents /mentors or our Creator.
Shaky confidence happens when our confidence level depends on our changing perceptions about our self-worth. Sometimes we allow our fluctuating emotions to affect how we think about ourselves. If this is the case , our self-confidence will be subjected to our changing emotions!!
Our self-worth and dignity also derives from living our lives with clear conscience. We try to do the right things with right and pure motives in our heart. We may be able to hide our evil agenda from others but we cannot lie or live in denial. If we live a life of lies and denial with self-justification, it is only a matter of time before we will wept bitterly with regrets and guilt feeling. Nevertheless, if we sincerely and honestly repent from our wrong doings or dishonest ways, we can experience forgiveness and renewal of self from the Higher One. Therefore a pure and righteous ( morally upright ) living is a key criteria for self-confidence.
In summary, true confidence is built on the foundation of the knowledge of the Truth /Creator . The Truth will inform us about our true self-worth and dignity. We need to strive and try to live pure and righteous life. Let us always be true and brutally honest with ourselves and our conscience.
No one can make you feel inferior without your consent. ~Eleanor Roosevelt
When there is no enemy within, the enemies outside cannot hurt you. ~African Proverb
Sunday, 27 January 2013
The 8th Sense.
Perhaps most of us who need to work each day have to wake up early with an alarm clock. How do you feel first thing in the morning? That "aarrrgh " feeling that i have gotta push away the blanket and get up.
And i realized that the first 15 minutes of the day is the time our body needs to struggle to get up. At that time i would feel pretty lousy and "blue". But the feeling may gradually disappear if i begin to feed myself with healthy thoughts for the day or say a prayer of thanksgiving.
Therefore, i believed that we not only have 5 senses ( vision, hearing, smell, taste and touch ) BUT we actually have 8 senses! So what are the additional 3 senses? It's awarenss of our emotional sense, thoughts / mind and our soul / spirit . And the 8th sense is the spiritual sense.
The early morning "battle of the blanket" is the emotional sense. But if we allow this emotion to overwhelm us, then it will certainly ruin the rest of the day. Hence , we need to switch on our thoughts or spiritual senses.
When we begin to awake our spiritual senses, it will certainly brings forth MEANING and purposeful thoughts and thus positive e-motion will flow freely.
Of course, most of us will still be highly motivated by being aware of our Mind / Thoughts. But are we missing out on the higher sense?
We are not human beings having a spiritual experience. We are spiritual beings having a human experience.
- Pierre Teilhard de Chardin
Monday, 2 July 2012
Brain Mind Specialist Centre
Welcome to Brain Mind Specialist Centre
The World Health Organization (WHO) defined health as "a state of complete physical, mental, and social well-being and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity".
Therefore a complete sense of well being involves the journey of nurturing our physical, mental and spiritual health.
Total mental health involves not only treatment of emotional issues but discovering and developing the strengths, abilities and talents which is inherent in every individual.
"Life is difficult. This is the great truth, one of the greatest truths - it is a great truth because once we see this truth, we transcend it."
M. Scott Peck
Mental illness is a Medical illness.
Just like any other medical illnesses e.g. hypertension or diabetes, treatments are available for people suffering from mental illness.
They deserved to get well and resume a normal life.
We should not treat people suffering from mental illness as abnormal, but as human being with dignity and every right for medical care and attention.
Dr. Vincent Wong Choong Wai